Key Signs Your Life Needs a Reboot Something,
You’d describe yourself as a bystander in your own life.
You romanticize the past (those were the good old days) or the future (wow that could be amazing) in order to escape the present.
You’re scared of what change might mean so you avoid it altogether. If I leave this job, will I get another? If I leave my relationship will I find someone else? If I lose weight will I have to diet forever?
You’re unhappy in at least one of your current environments. This most often means your work or domestic situation. But it can also refer to your relationships within a particular club, group or sports/leisure activity.
You’re not (or you’ve stopped) contributing fully and willingly to the lives of the people around you. You know you could and should do better.
Your body is (sort of) in the game but your mind is often somewhere else, thinking about other things and/or other people.
You feel like you’re consistently hiding your true personality or that you’d like to be more than who you currently show to the world.
You feel a rush of envy when you see someone with a great life (doing what they love) and you want what they’re having.
When Your Life Needs a Reboot: 4 Ways to Kick On
If it’s a “yes” to many of the signs above, you need a reboot. But, often, feelings of overwhelming make it hard to know where to start. So here are the four most important first steps. Tap into these and you’ll be on your way.
1. Your body’s talking to you.
Come on, take stock. Often when feeling flat and unmotivated, you’ve gotten a little out of shape, a little soft through the middle, or you’re starting to feel the drift of age. You don’t have to spend a week on dry crackers or spend your monthly salary on a luxury spa retreat, but you have to do something. Begin is with your physical self. Making a change to your diet or activity levels — or indulging in a little pampering — pays immediate dividends because it makes you feel good about yourself. So it works for your mind too.
2. Things that THUMP in the night.
Okay, maybe you get eight hours of deep, refreshing sleep every night. But, if you woke up in the middle of the night, what would your thoughts drift to? Work? Your relationship? Money? That bitch in the corner office? By identifying (and prioritizing) your worries you can reduce overwhelm. So target the area that troubles you most and commits yourself to do something differently.
3. Put your daily habits under the microscope.
Look at the things you do every day, or at least most days. Your morning routines, what you eat/drink/imbibe, what you buy/spend, how you behave to your partner or kids or workmates. Which things are quietly leading you down an unhealthy or unhelpful path? Too often we ignore the little things that — when they pile up day after day — begin to inform who we are. Is that really what you want? If not, pick the worst of them and replace them with something positive. Repeat.
4. Your evenings hold BIG clues.
Your evenings reflect who you are (unless you work evenings). Our days — especially during the week — are often highly structured; most of us have to earn a living — but the evening is the time when we (hopefully) get a window to ourselves. If your thing is to binge on Netflix, all power to you. Same thing if you like to hit the party hard. Or surf the net. But if you do it night after night, be sure it’s what you want, be sure it’s taking you in a direction you’re happy with. The out-of-work hours are our playtime, perfect for being creative, making things, reading, learning, refreshing, engaging (fully) with family or friends. So shake up your evenings, at least introducing some variety, might be hugely refreshing.