You just bought a new cream that is supposed to help solve all your skin problems and you can’t wait to try it. You go home and almost before you have taken off your shoes, you are off to the bathroom or your vanity table and within five minutes you have slathered the cream thickly all over your face.
Then you wait. You wait some more and look into the mirror expectantly. You keep checking up on your skin to see how it is doing. After half an hour, your skin is still looking shiny and still feels sticky. You start worrying. You notice that there is some sort of residue on your skin now. You rub at it and it comes off in little crumbly sticky bits.
You get frustrated. After a few more hours, you exasperatedly wash your face and leave a scathing product review for the cream. You feel disappointed and cheated and wonder whether you will ever find the right moisturizer. you are also contemplating the almost certainly imminent advent of deep wrinkles. Any day now.
Does this sound familiar? If yes, welcome, fellow skincare enthusiast, I have had the same problem and yes, I did find a way to fix it. If not, keep reading anyway, it will be relevant, I promise.
See, I have had several experiences like the one above and it took quite a long time and quite a few expensive glossy brand cream failures for me to finally figure out what I was doing wrong. Ironically, a girl at a drug store had told me exactly what the problem was years ago and it still took me until recently to really understand where things were going awry.
Learn how to cleanse and tone before you moisturize. In other words: Wash your face!
The best cream will not do anything for you if you use it the wrong way.
First of all, wash your face, girl. I mean really, what were you thinking slathering that cream onto all the grime and make-up of the kind of busy day that sent you emergency wellness shopping in the first place? The best product will not do anything for you if you do not fix the basics. Get your make-up off. Cleanse, tone and then moisturize.
Secondly, you don’t need that much. Really, a pea-sized amount applied regularly is much more effective than occasional feats of drowning your skin in an expensive product.
This is what went wrong for me most of the time. I was just using way too much of the stuff. Small amounts, applied more often (morning and night) are so much better.
It turned out that the perfect cream does not exist. When used correctly, most creams, regardless of their price range, give me good results. Obviously, they need to match my skin type and they should not have stuff in them that I am allergic to, but other than that, it doesn’t really matter if it is the 80 dollar luxury brand or the cheap 5 dollar drugstore alternative. In many cases, the drugstore alternative does just as well or even better.
Don’t fall victim to the “everything-right-now”-culture. Skincare and self-improvement both need time for the results to show.
The results will take time. They do not show up in five minutes or even a few hours. Your skin will look healthier if you keep taking good care of it daily. We are talking days and weeks here, not minutes and hours.
How does this relate to personal growth?
Well first off, before you throw yourself into exotic, quite possibly expensive courses or coachings or anything, really, get the basics right. Do the personal growth version of cleansing and toning. Start getting rid of those destructive habits and improve your sleeping and food habits. Very often, stopping a destructive habit is a lot more effective than adding one single positive habit. You don’t need to look at how to micro-optimize the last bit of your productivity if you are still not getting a proper amount of sleep. Believe me, it is the sleep and not the productivity method that will boost your results.
If the habit will not stick, chances are you are trying to do too much.
Secondly, a little goes a long way. Eating a little healthier, exercising a little, meditating a little, reading a little. All these small things add up to big results over time. Don’t go on a weeklong reading binge and then get so burned out that you don’t read for another twelve months. If the habit will not stick, chances are you are trying to do too much. Read a little. Write a little. Meditate for five minutes.
And thirdly, don’t obsess over the exact method too much. There are many different ways to meditate and they are all similarly effective. There are many books to read and reading something is always better than not reading at all. Chose something that will support your habit. If you want to get into the habit of reading, start by reading something you enjoy. You can graduate from Romance Novels to Greek Philosophy. Heck, you can even switch between the two! You can get good results with the coaching that is not the most expensive, the books that are not on the bestseller list and the healthier food that is not the latest craze.