Happiness, Your day started fine, but now you can feel your happiness slipping away for no clear reason. Despite your best efforts at being positive and grateful, you can feel the seemingly uncontrollable negativity creeping in.
It’s as if you’re stuck on a seesaw of emotions. After every push for positive feelings, negativity gets a turn again.
You feel so tired of the whole charade. In fact, you’re sick of it! One more time of sitting down and writing ten things to be grateful for might just make you puke.
Is it possible to be happy most of the time? Spontaneously…?! Is there such a thing as true joy?
And if there is, why on earth is it so difficult to attain? I mean, everyone and his dog is going around telling you that you can have the life you want if you feel the love /joy/gratitude… Yet, you remain unfulfilled, Happiness, unhappy, and what you really want stays just out of reach.
It is as if Creation is teasing you… You order peace, love, and joy, but you’re being served irritation, frustration, and impatience.
And if someone dares to tell you it’s because you’re not thinking enough positive thoughts, you might just run them over with your car.
I know the feeling. Don’t despair.
This is simple to fix. It involves an adjustment to how you approach life, but when you understand and apply it, it becomes a simple switch that will make all the difference.
When you transcend the pain-pleasure cycle in your life and start to get and maintain access to true Joy:
You will truly succeed in every moment of your life, starting with this one,
You will start living a life you’re proud of, one you actually spontaneously enjoy all the time, and
You will infuse everything you do and every interaction you have with Infinite Intelligence, filling it with the Power to bring you and other people Joy, Peace, and Freedom.
How an Exclusive Focus on the Law of Attraction Gets It Wrong
Am I saying there is no power in positive thinking? Am I saying that having and living a life filled with thoughts of love, joy and gratitude is a waste of time?
In fact, I’m in agreement with many of the teachings of the law of attraction. Happiness, I do believe that at your core you are a powerful Creator with the potential to significantly influence the reality that you and others experience on this planet.
However, what I’m saying is that a life of constant thinking is stealing your joy.
The problem comes with mind identification. You’ve heard it before, right? You are not your thoughts… You are infinitely more than a human brain.
A good description I encountered once — I cannot remember exactly where — said that the human mind is like a tadpole in a tiny pond on a farm, while the true You is like a whale in the vast ocean.
The difference between the human mind and Infinite Intelligence is vast.
Steven Pressfield calls this truest version of you your Superconscious. And it really is super in my experience.
The self-help industry and proponents of the law of attraction constantly focus on the need for positive thoughts. This advice forgets the fact that most human beings long for freedom from thought—for freedom from the mind.
And sadly, most of the time, Happiness, the law of attraction literature neglects to focus on upgrading your sense of identification from the babbling voice in your head to your larger spiritual identity.
Yes, thinking positive thoughts feels better than thinking negative thoughts, but these feelings are mere emotions, and they’re also rooted in a lower level of consciousness — just like thoughts.
Your Feelings Aren’t Nearly as Important as You Think
Negative thoughts bring emotions such as anxiety, frustration, self-pity or anger. Positive thoughts bring emotions such as excitement, gratitude or happiness.
Every emotion has an opposite, and if you play only in the lower realm of thoughts and emotions, you’ll oscillate constantly between negativity and positivity. What goes up must come down again. For every positive thought/emotion, there is an opposite and equal negative thought/emotion.
Does this resonate with you?
I assure you this is how it works. Experiment with it. If you stay on the positive side of emotions for long enough, something will happen to balance it with the negative, even if only some dip in energy from the constant mental effort to remain positive.
It becomes hard to work to stay positive. Positive thoughts feel good, but applying an effort to constantly think them is tiring, and positivity turns into its opposite very quickly and without warning.
You need to transcend both thinking and the feelings that come as a result of your thoughts. You need to find and maintain the State of Clarity. Unlike positive emotions, the Peace, Love, Joy, Happiness, and Bliss you’ll experience there has no opposite.
Joy pervades your life effortlessly. No hard work is required to feel it.
I write the words for these experiences with capital letters since they are not emotions. I use words that people often use for emotions to point to a reality much higher than mere positive feelings.
To truly understand Joy, you need to experience this State of Clarity. Thinking about Joy won’t help. You need to feel it to understand what is meant by it. I share a simple exercise for this later.
Actually, You’re Filled with Joy Already
This spiritual State of Clarity is your natural state. I know, sometimes it sure doesn’t feel like it, but that’s because — as Eckhart Tolle writes—your mind is making too much noise.
The State of Clarity is the state of pure Being that you experience when you quiet your mind.
In the stillness and space that remains, you will find the “peace that passes all understanding” as Paul called it the New Testament. And it’s available to every person alive (not only to Christians as Paul would claim). Happiness, The only prerequisite for accessing this state is to break your identification with your thoughts.
That’s it. Nothing else is required!
And that’s also why trying to think positive thoughts all day does more to keep you stuck than it does to free you from your mind.
The moment you access the State of Clarity, you transcend the pain-pleasure seesaw of your thoughts and emotions—and you tap into the Joy, Bliss, Love, and Peace that has no opposite.
Want to give it a try right now?
How to Access the State of Clarity to Heal Your Life
Okay, enough talk. Let’s get practical.
Many meditations use the breath or inner energy awareness, but I have found the following to be a simple yet powerful way to enhance your awareness. And it doesn’t take much time.
A hydrogen atom is an almost entirely empty space. If you had an atom the size of the earth, its core, or proton, would be 200 meters or 600 feet wide.
Similarly, the human body is more than 99% empty space. Google it.
Focus your awareness on this empty space inside your body. Feel the empty space inside you…
As we focus on space or silence, we become aware of a profound Stillness. So, alternatively, you can focus on the silence behind the sounds you hear as you close your eyes.
Whether you’re focusing on the space inside your body or the silence behind the sounds, realize that it is what allows all objects or sounds to exist. It is the ground of Being.
Grow your awareness so that you can sense the silence or space beyond everything that exists. Feel the space behind all existence. Hear the silence behind everything.
As you practice this, you shift your awareness and identity from being a human body to being a field of clear awareness, pervading all that is.
This very simple and quick exercise has helped you make a shift in consciousness that, if practiced regularly, has the potential to change everything.
As you read further, see if you can read while still remaining conscious of that feeling of spaciousness behind your physical existence.
Infuse Every Moment of Your Life with Clarity
Good news! If you’ve read this far and completed the above awareness exercise, you’ve had your first glimpse of the State of Clarity.
If you’re not new to all this, maybe you have found a useful new exercise or experienced a re-connection to your Source.
Initially, it might not feel like much. Yet, every time you access the State of Clarity it is like you are piercing a veil. You are creating a little opening for the Divine to enter your life.
You are allowing Infinite Intelligence to flow from a higher realm into your everyday life.
So whenever you feel negative emotions, allow it to serve as a reminder for you that you’re called to operate on a higher level of consciousness than mere human thought.
You have the key now. Turn it when you need Clarity. Turn it when you need to feel more Joy, Peace or Power.
Reconnecting to Infinite Intelligence brings immense benefits to you. Happiness Apart from feeling more Peace and Joy than you have ever felt, operating from the State of Clarity will change every aspect of your outer life.
If you anchor your life in the State of Clarity, You (capital Y) will:
Effortlessly gravitate towards the work you need to do here and now, at this stage of your journey, for which you are most suited,
Infuse everything you work on and do with a deep quality, a powerful presence that you and other people can perceive but not quite explain,
Heal old wounds, energies and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck and frustrating all attempts at progress,
Be brave enough and have enough confidence and conviction (finally!) to walk away from addictions, behaviors, activities, and people that are keeping you stuck in a reality that has become too small for your vision and potential, and
Have a passion for your ultimate destiny awakened or reawakened inside you, and start putting in some of the work to make this your reality.